Hey mama,

This week, let's dive into a topic that's both juicy and joyful—self-pleasure during pregnancy. Dr. Kate Balestrieri, a renowned psychologist and sex therapist, spills all about why engaging in a little "me-time" is not only safe but beneficial when you're expecting.

The Surprising Benefits of Self pleasure

Did you know that reaching for that bedside drawer of goodies could do more than just make you smile? According to Dr. Balestrieri, masturbation during pregnancy isn’t just about fun; it’s a health booster too! From slashing stress levels to enhancing sleep, and even easing those pesky pregnancy pains, the benefits are as real as the baby bump.

“Masturbation is a fantastic way to keep in touch with your body and maintain your identity as a vibrant, sexual being,” says Dr. Balestrieri. It’s also a plus for strengthening those pelvic floor muscles, which, let’s be honest, will thank you during labor and delivery.

tackling the myths

Let's clear the air on one major misconception: the notion that pregnant women shouldn’t or don’t want to engage in sexual pleasure. “Pregnancy can actually heighten sexual desire for many,” Dr. Balestrieri explains. Yet, there’s still a lot of undeserved side-eye being thrown at sexually active expectant mothers, both from society and sometimes, from within. Remember, whether your libido is on a high or taking a little nap, it’s perfectly normal.

Toy talk: What’s safe?

When it comes to toys, the mantra is simple: keep it clean and consult your doc. External stimulation gadgets are a go-to for safe pleasure. However, if your pregnancy is considered high-risk, or if your doctor advises against it, you might need to adjust your solo play playbook. “Consider non-penetrative options like exploring nipple play,” suggests Dr. Balestrieri.

Pro Tips for Pleasurable Play

Dr. Balestrieri offers these pearls of wisdom for your solo sessions:

1. Lubricate Liberally: Hormonal changes can dry things up. Keep the lube handy!

2. Experiment with Positions: Use pillows to prop yourself up and find what feels good as your body changes.

3. Listen to Your Body: Your body knows best. If something doesn’t feel right, switch it up.

4. Slow and Steady: Take your time to enjoy every sensation. Post-baby, your solo sessions might become as rare as a full night’s sleep.

5. Cleanliness is Key: Always wash your hands and toys to prevent infections.

6. Shared Pleasure: If you’re feeling up to it, invite your partner to join the journey in a non-invasive way, like watching or playing alongside you.

When to hit pause

Remember, the only time to steer clear of self-pleasure is when you're not in the mood or if there’s medical advice against it.

closing thoughts

Navigating sexuality during pregnancy, birth, and the postpartum period can be complex. Dr. Balestrieri suggests that working with a sex therapist can be incredibly beneficial, especially for new parents or those with past traumas. Remember, you're not alone in this journey.

So, as you nest and rest, don't forget to keep the spark alive within you. Here’s to enjoying a fulfilling, intimate relationship with yourself, which is just as important now as ever.

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